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Bible Verses About Relationships-Finding the One 

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The Bible provides us with a plethora of knowledge we can use for our daily lives Including our relationships. In this post, I’ll provide you with multiple bible verses to study for every aspect of your relationship from finding the guy/girl to engagement! So, let’s get into bible verses about relationships and finding the one to know and study! 

Finding The One!

The following bible verses about relationships are about the pursuit and dating. Dating should be intentional with the goal of marriage. Use the dating period to learn more about the person: their goals, relationship with God, thoughts on marriage and family, and more! Check out my post on ultimate list of questions to ask before marriage here.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18: 22 

You’re going to notice a pattern here: Notice the verse says He who finds a wife. Not she who finds a husband. Men are designed for pursuit so let him pursue you. The woman is meant to be the good thing for her husband. Consider for yourself, are you that good thing? 

“Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Genesis 2: 22 

Ladies, you don’t have to chase after any guy. The Lord will prepare you for the right guy then bring you to him.  

“Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master…Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the Lord had made his journey successful.” Genesis 24: 12-23 

This relates to my post how I knew my husband was the one. The Lord can absolutely lead you to who your spouse is. Pray like Abraham’s servant-pray specifically. Then walk by faith that the Lord will answer you. But when the Lord brings your spouse, wait and see if this truly is from the Lord.  

Trusting God When Finding the One

It’s so important to trust God when dating because God knows everything about us. He knows what we will do and who we will eventually marry. He has a perfect will for us. Check out these bible verses for trusting God when single and dating.

”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29: 11 

Relating to the above verse, God knows everything about us, including our future. Of purse He will know who we marry. So trust Him with that decision.  

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”  Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ 

“I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.” Song of Solomon 8:4  

Wait for the right time. Do you think you need to stay single for a little bit to grow closer to God, or get to a better place financially? Timing is everything, especially with marriage.  

“Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6: 25, 33 

Pursue God daily. Make sure you are doing His will everyday, and try to live your best life for Him. Grow in your struggle areas. When you stop worrying about finding the one, God will bring Him to you. This is so true for me! When I stopped worrying about finding the one, and focusing all my attention on growing closer to God, I met my husband!  

Are They the One?

When dating someone, use these bible verses to determine if they are the one based on their character. Are they a Christian? Are they kind and patient? Check out the verses below for help with these questions!

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 

This is very important. You wanna be on the same page with your partner in regard to life goals, children, and your faith. It is better to be with someone with the same faith as you. I know people who are with people who aren’t Christian and it can be a struggle for them. Of course God can save anyone, but allow Him to do that work. Missionary dating can be a struggle-so why do it?  

“You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.” Matthew 7: 16-17 

Is this person a good person? Do they display the fruits of the spirit: love, kindness, meekness, patience? Ask their friends and family what type of person they are-how do they react when angry, when they don’t get their way, or when disappointed or dissatisfied? Every man reveals himself, eventually. 

Conclusion

Study these bible verses about relationships when you are struggling with trusting God while you’re single and looking for the one. God can lead you in everything. He wants to be involved in every aspect of our lives. Trust Him, and obey Him. He won’t let you down 

Blessings,

M/M

The Marriage Gym: How Marriage Makes You a Stronger Christian

I never truly liked the gym. I go every week, but its not my favorite place to go to. What keeps me going every week then? My body needs it: the gym is where my muscles get worked and get stronger. So although I don’t like to go to the gym (especially early in the morning), I go because my body needs to get stronger.

When I first got married, I understood that marriage would be hard. I understood it would take alot of work. But, I didnt realize how marriage, in a way, is like a gym. The daily trials, struggles, and triumphs of marriage strengthens you as a Christian.

So let’s discuss three ways marriage can make you a stronger Christian.

1. Growing in Grace

When you get married, you learn to give grace to your spouse. Although its easy to forget this: none of us are perfect. We go into marriage thinking the world of our spouses. We think they can do no wrong and would never hurt us. But we forget that our spouses are humans-thus bound to make mistakes and fall short of expectations. When your spouse does something to offend you, and they apologize, give them grace in forgiveness. And forget it ever happened. Remember: they are still human! Although this sounds impossibly hard (I’m still growing in this area!), its doable with prayer and practice. Giving your spouse grace really helps your relationship in the long run. Because again, no one is perfect. We all need God’s grace. When we remember that, its not too hard to give grace after you’ve been hurt or offended, and it makes it easier to love your spouse in spite of their faults.

2. Learning to Love

Love is something that is truly powerful when experienced. When your spouse loves you even after your worst moments, its the best feeling ever. You can grow to truly love people starting with your spouse. Your spouse will annoy you, irritate you, anger you, and hurt you. But when you can look past that and love them anyway, your capacity to love grows so much more. My understanding of what true love is has grown so much since getting married: I believe my experience with loving and being loved by my husband has helped me to love people who are hard to love. Like mean customers at work, coworkers or rude people I run into in my day to day life. Loving, like forgiveness, isn’t always easy, but its definitely worth it.

3. Fortifying Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t easy for everybody. But when you live with your spouse, they are gonna make mistakes. Again, they will anger you, upset you, and/or annoy you (sometimes all in the same day!). But you’ll have to forgive them anyway. When I think of forgiveness, I try to consider my own actions in the past. I’ve done things to anger God, or anger others and needed forgiveness. So, why couldn’t I forgive my husband? While that’s so easy to say it could be very hard to do.

We sometimes cant think past our own hurts. But when we choose to forgive, we get so much freedom. Dr. Bob Enright, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Madison has done a lot of research on forgiveness. He found that forgiveness is associated with reduced anxiety, depression and major psychiatric disorders, as well as with fewer physical health symptoms like pain, and lower death rates. I’ve learned that forgiveness (especially after a hard situation) is a process. You have to tell yourself to forgive, make yourself think differently about that person, and choose to think differently toward them. When we choose to forgive, we truly grow stronger in our Christian walk.

“While bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

1 Timothy 4:8.

We all need exercise, the Bible says, but the most important exercise is spiritual exercise. And we all need it in order to be stronger Christians. Marriage is not just about having a best buddy to have fun with, or sex, or money, or prestige. All those things are wonderful and fruitful; but I believe God designed marriage to help us get stronger and to be more like Christ. The same is true with the gym as it is in marriage: its often easier to work out with a buddy than by yourself.