Bible Verses About Relationships-Finding the One

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The Bible provides us with a plethora of knowledge we can use for our daily lives Including our relationships. In this post, I’ll provide you with multiple bible verses to study for every aspect of your relationship from finding the guy/girl to engagement! So, let’s get into bible verses about relationships and finding the one to know and study! 

Finding The One!

The following bible verses about relationships are about the pursuit and dating. Dating should be intentional with the goal of marriage. Use the dating period to learn more about the person: their goals, relationship with God, thoughts on marriage and family, and more! Check out my post on ultimate list of questions to ask before marriage here.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18: 22 

You’re going to notice a pattern here: Notice the verse says He who finds a wife. Not she who finds a husband. Men are designed for pursuit so let him pursue you. The woman is meant to be the good thing for her husband. Consider for yourself, are you that good thing? 

“Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Genesis 2: 22 

Ladies, you don’t have to chase after any guy. The Lord will prepare you for the right guy then bring you to him.  

“Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master…Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the Lord had made his journey successful.” Genesis 24: 12-23 

This relates to my post how I knew my husband was the one. The Lord can absolutely lead you to who your spouse is. Pray like Abraham’s servant-pray specifically. Then walk by faith that the Lord will answer you. But when the Lord brings your spouse, wait and see if this truly is from the Lord.  

Trusting God When Finding the One

It’s so important to trust God when dating because God knows everything about us. He knows what we will do and who we will eventually marry. He has a perfect will for us. Check out these bible verses for trusting God when single and dating.

”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29: 11 

Relating to the above verse, God knows everything about us, including our future. Of purse He will know who we marry. So trust Him with that decision.  

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”  Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ 

“I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.” Song of Solomon 8:4  

Wait for the right time. Do you think you need to stay single for a little bit to grow closer to God, or get to a better place financially? Timing is everything, especially with marriage.  

“Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6: 25, 33 

Pursue God daily. Make sure you are doing His will everyday, and try to live your best life for Him. Grow in your struggle areas. When you stop worrying about finding the one, God will bring Him to you. This is so true for me! When I stopped worrying about finding the one, and focusing all my attention on growing closer to God, I met my husband!  

Are They the One?

When dating someone, use these bible verses to determine if they are the one based on their character. Are they a Christian? Are they kind and patient? Check out the verses below for help with these questions!

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 

This is very important. You wanna be on the same page with your partner in regard to life goals, children, and your faith. It is better to be with someone with the same faith as you. I know people who are with people who aren’t Christian and it can be a struggle for them. Of course God can save anyone, but allow Him to do that work. Missionary dating can be a struggle-so why do it?  

“You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.” Matthew 7: 16-17 

Is this person a good person? Do they display the fruits of the spirit: love, kindness, meekness, patience? Ask their friends and family what type of person they are-how do they react when angry, when they don’t get their way, or when disappointed or dissatisfied? Every man reveals himself, eventually. 

Conclusion

Study these bible verses about relationships when you are struggling with trusting God while you’re single and looking for the one. God can lead you in everything. He wants to be involved in every aspect of our lives. Trust Him, and obey Him. He won’t let you down 

Blessings,

M/M

How Satan Plans to Destroy Your Marriage Through Your Mind

The Bible tells us in John 10:10 that Satan comes to steal , kill, and destroy. He doesnt just want to destroy your life, he also wants to destroy your marriage.

Why?

Everything good that God creates, Satan hates. He wants to twist it, and make it evil. Not only that, but he hates unity, and will di anything to divide your marriage. Don’t let him do that to your marriage!

Satan is very crafty, and cunning. He won’t attack you right in the open so you know its him. He will be stealthy. The Bible warns us to be aware of Satan’s tricks unless he’ll trip us up. And he will often use us as the enemy to drive us away from our spouses.

What are some of Satan’s tricks to destroy your marriage? Let’s see.

He’ll Attack Your Thoughts

I once heard a pastor teach how Satan attacks your thinking. He said Satan will speak thoughts into your head in a way that sounds like its you thinking those things.

Thoughts like,

“My husband is an idiot.”

“He doesn’t think I’m pretty.”

Of course, these thoughts could be from you or from Satan. Either way, talk back to yourself-“my husband is not an idiot.” Or ask your husband, “do you think I’m pretty?” To get the reassurance you need.

The Bible calls us to take control over our unruly thoughts in 2 Corinthians 10:5,

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…”

Satan dwells in the shadows. Expose his little lies by simply going to your partner and seeking the truth yourself. He’s riding on you dwelling on these thoughts for hours and days, and eventually believing them to be true.

Which is why the Bible also commands us to only think on good, positive things in Philippians 4:8,

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

Again, its so important to be watching what you think. Watching your thoughts will also reveal what demonic spirit could be trying to influence you.

Watch Your Thoughts

Demons can identify themselves by the thoughts you hear in your mind. You can tell the thoughts are not your own usually if they are something you’ve never thoguht before, something way out of left field, or dramatic.

Such as:

-constant angry thoughts could be a sign of a spirit of anger

-sinful thoughts

-thoughts of harm

If you notice any of these thoughts pop into your head, rebuke them and speak Philippians 4:8 mentioned above. It’s important to not consider these thoughts for a moment, and to rebuke them.

Also, sometimes evil thoughts can be from us since we are inherently sinful. But sometimes spirits do come and try to influence us. If you entertain them you will have a problem. And if you give them a way in through what you watch or listen to, that’s another problem.

Be Careful What You Watch

Certain tv shows, music, and movies can open up a door way for Satan to come in. Such as?

-Movies or shows that invoke spirit of fear like horror movies

-Porn or other sexually explicit entertainment

Horror movies because God doesn’t call us to a spirit of fear as 2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us,

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

Porn because the Bible warns us to run from sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 6:18. “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”

“But its just a movie.”

“it’s Just a show!”

You might be lamenting. What you watch and listen to can affect how you think about yourself and others.

Why do I think my husband is a bozo after watching Real Housewives of Atlanta all week (just an example, I hate reality tv)? Or why do I think my husband could be cheating on me after watching Tyler Perry’s Temptation?

That’s why King David wisely said in Psalms 101:3, “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.”

The things we watch, and listen to can have an effect on us and be an opening for Satan to destroy our marriages through our minds.

Conclusion

All wisdom comes from God. If youre unsure about a tv show, movie, someone in your life, or even going somewhere, ask the Lord for wisdom. Does he want you to continue watching or listening to that?

Before you leave the house every day Put on the whole armor of God daily (Ephesians 6:11-18). Ask the Lord to give you discernment to know what is good and what is evil.

God wants us to have happy marriages. Don’t let little thoughts these sink root in your mind and cause an argument, or a root of bitterness in yourself and your marriage. Expose these lies for what they are and live free!

Blessings,

M/M

How to be Saved: 3 Steps From the Bible

If you haven’t noticed, our world is crazy. If you don’t believe me, go take a look at the news and you’ll find: murder, depression, lawlessness, and all forms of evil in the world today. It’s easy to get depressed, or anxious, or hopeless, unnoticed, or unloved. We all are looking for something. I can tell you that when you get saved, you’ll find that Jesus is the answer to all of your questions. Let’s discover how to be saved according to the Bible.

Salvation: a 3 Step Process

Salvation is a three step process according to the Bible: Know you need a savior, Repent, Believe in Jesus, Get Baptised in water and Spirit. But don’t let those steps hinder you and make you think salvation is this long, arduous process. It is not. Each step is meant to strengthen yourself, affirm your salvation, and strengthen your relationship with Jesus.

1. Know You Need a Savior

Romans 3:23 says all men have sinned (meaning done wrong). According to God’s righteous standard, all of us have messed up in some way. All of us have done something were not supposed to because its in our nature as people. None of us came out the womb perfect. So we all need forgiveness from the bad things we’ve done. And that comes by repentance.

2. Repent

Since all of us have sinned, we all need to repent to God for our sins.

Acts 3:19 says, “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord.” If you ask the Lord for forgiveness and recognize you need a savior then you are forgiven. Now it takes faith to do this: to believe in Jesus and to believe He’s forgiven you takes faith.

We’re saved by faith according to Ephesians 2:8,

“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God.”

But you cant stop there though. You cant just say these things without backing it up with some action, too. The Bible says by faith we’re saved, but faith without works is dead. So we have to demonstrate our faith by action: baptism.

3. Baptism (in the water and the Spirit)

Some of Jesus’ last words with his disciples was for them to “Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit (Matthew 28:19).”

Baptism is super important: and the disciples took it seriously. They baptised people specifically in Jesus’ name:

Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” Acts 2:38

“And now what are you waiting for? Get up, be baptized and wash your sins away, calling on his name.” Acts 22:16

Notice Paul says once youre baptised you will recive the gift of the Holy Ghost. This is the final step to salvation.

Jesus instructed the curious Nicodemous that to be saved you must be baptised in the water and spirit. He actually urged Nicodemus saying in John 3:5, “I assure you, no one can enter the Kingdom of God without being born of water and the Spirit.”

Receiving the gift of the Holy spirt was so important for salvation it was stressed by the apostles. So how do you receive it? Simple: keep asking until you get it.

Paul mentions this in Acts 19: 2, 6,

“Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?” he asked them. “No,” they replied, “we haven’t even heard that there is a Holy Spirit.” And when Paul had laid his hands upon them, the Holy Ghost came on them; and they spake with tongues, and prophesied.”

Conclusion

When you have salvation, you not only have the peace of God, but also purpose, a history, a family, and a loving Father who takes care of you. I have all of this and more.

We all need purpose. We all need love. Love is a basic human need. The Bible says God loved us before we even knew Him. 

Blessings and Love,

M/M

Monday Musings: Five Lessons from a Wife Whose Parents are Divorced

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Divorce sucks. When it happens, it affects everyone-not just the husband and wife. My parents divorced when I was in high school, and the experience hurt. But I learned a lot examining my parents marriage-the highs, the lows and its eventual end taught me a lot of lessons that I draw upon now as a wife. Hopefully these lessons help you too.

1. Communicate as Much as You Can

As an introvert, I struggle sometimes with communicating with my spouse. I find it easier to withhold my thoughts and feelings and retreat into the safety of my mind. But I learned its better for the relationship to talk about any concerns or thoughts you have. Because your spouse wont know how you’re feeling until you tell them. Satan comes to destroy your marriage. He hates unity. He will speak lies to you about your spouse and continue to tell them until you believe it.

Satan: “He doesn’t think you look good in that outfit. In fact he thinks you’re ugly and wishes he was with his ex.”

Wife: “Does he still think about his ex? Does he think I’m ugly?”

By communicating, you put a stop to these lies and get the truth from your spouse yourself instead of assuming. Don’t be afraid to be real with your spouse. Ask him directly, “do you think I’m beautiful?” And don’t be afraid to talk back to those lying thoughts.

Wife: “that’s not true! My husband thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world!”

Speaking of beauty, I’ve noticed insecurities can lead to assumptions. Which can also lead to arguments. Leading to my next point.

2. Assume the Best, Not the Worst

This one can be tricky because if you’re offended, its easy to assume your husband intentionally tried to hurt you. Especially if the offense is rooted in an insecurity. Insecurities are like healing scars: if you poke or pick at it, it’ll sting. If our spouse unintentionally (or intentionally) pokes at your insecurity, it can hurt a lot. The best thing to do is to first communicate with your spouse and tell them you were hurt by them. Try your best not to attack or assume they intentionally tried to hurt you. I’ve learned the best thing to do with insecurities is recognize them, and grow from it. Assuming things about your spouse can be perceived as disrespectful. You never want to disrespect your spouse.

3. Unconditional Respect

We’ve all heard of unconditional love, but what about unconditional respect? I’ve learned that respect and love are equally important in marriage. Even the apostle Paul talks about the importance of respect as being as important as love in marriage. He commands the husband in Ephesians 5:25-33 to “love his wife as Christ loved the church and died for it…let everyone of you love his wife even as himself.”

But he also adds in verse 33 “…and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” As wives, we are to respect our husbands. Yes, our husbands should respect us too, but Paul specifically commands wives to respect their husbands. Why would he say this? I believe its because he knew respect is as important to men as love is to women and there would be times where we don’t want to respect our husbands. I’ve learned that respect is something that, when lacking, can cause lasting damage in a marriage. It can cause spouses to be embittered by one another. If a person doesn’t feel respected, they will find respect elsewhere.

Respect, like love, is a basic marital need. There will be times when I don’t feel my husband deserves respect, but I give it because in marriage, respect isn’t earned its required. More on this love and respect principle can be viewed in this awesome book: “Love and Respect: the love she most desires and respect he desperately needs” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs which I’ve linked below.

Love and respect in marriage helps maintain unity in marriage like a glue. Glue is a perfect Segway to my next lesson, which is:

4. Keep the Unity

Unity is so important in marriage. I don’t just mean staying together forever. I also mean unity in goals for your lives. Before we got married, we spoke about life goals together and ensured we agreed on things like: children, pets, home ownership, debt, career goals, etc. We had to make sure we were both on the same page, or else we would not be unified on these topics. Jumping back on that respect point, I make sure never to disrespect or talk bad about my spouse to others including family. Because that will bring division. Speaking of family, family can be a cause of division in marriage. I spoke on this in a previous post called I married you, not your family

https://themustardseedwife.com/2021/09/17/i-married-you-not-your-family/

It’s important to set up appropriate boundaries with family members, and ensure the family knows your spouse is to be respected as another member of the family. An important  member of the marriage should be: Jesus.

5. Keep God in the Center

Keeping God in the center of your marriage will do wonders for your marriage and even before your marriage. Ask yourselves: Does God want us to be together in the first place?  Plead the blood of Jesus over your marriage daily. Pray for and with each other. Go to church together.

Make sure your heart is right with the Lord so you can love and serve your spouse the way you should. If you include God in your marriage, you will never be disappointed. Finally, the last one which is:

6. Divorce is Never an Option

Jason and I do as much as we can to ensure divorce is never an option for us. By not only implementing the lessons above, but also loving on each other, serving each other, keeping ourselves at our best so we maintain attraction for each other, and keeping our marriage first (after God). Of course, I understand there are instances where divorce should definitely happen, and God is able to make every broken situation into a beautiful one. I want to make sure I do everything I can to ensure its never an option.

Conclusion

Reiterating what I said above: I think divorce sucks. Divorce is like a bomb. Once its dropped it damages everything in its path: the children, the spouses, your finances, your home. So I want to do everything in my power to ensure divorce is not an option for myself and my husband.

Blessings,

M/M

The One Question You Don’t Want to Ask Yourself in Heaven.

I’m a huge Marvel fan. I’ve seen most of the Marvel movies and shows. Recently, Marvel released a new show called “What If?” The show examines what would happen if the usual storylines we’re familiar with in the Marvel movies took different turns. Like what if Peggy Carter became Captain America instead of Steve Rogers? Or what if Starlord was T’challa instead of Peter Quill? “What if” is a big question. It explores the realm of possibility. This is one question you don’t want to ask yourself when we get to eternity. Why, you might ask? Let’s explore this.

God’s Perfect Plan for You

The Bible says God has a perfect plan for our lives. But He does give us free will. We can choose to do things our way, outside of God’s will. Just look at Adam and Eve. God’s perfect will for them was to stay in the Garden of Eden: where they lived in peace, and had all the food and fulfillment they needed. But they chose to live outside of God’s plan for them. This plan was not as good as God’s plan: filled with toil, pain, sweat, and hurt. I often wondered what would have happened if Adam did not eat the fruit. If Adam chose to allow God to lead his life and not himself.

If we allow God to lead our lives, we won’t ever have to question what if. Because we will be in God’s perfect will. Now we are human, all of us struggle with doubt, or fear. But this is an appeal to live a life of faith. If you feel the Lord leading you to write a book-write the book. Or if you hear Him tell you to start a hard conversation with a family member about their faith, start that conversation. If you’re feeling afraid, do it with fear. God will see you through! But you probably should do it because you never know what is on the other side of your obedience. And if you stumble in your obedience, repent and keep going. God doesn’t give up on us if we struggle with our faith.

Use Your Gifts to Worship God

Live your best life for God! Use every gift and talent the Lord has given you. He gave it to you, so use it! Are you gifted in painting? Sell paintings or teach a class. Can you play piano? Play at church or in a band. Be like the man in the Bible who used all the talents the Lord gave him and brought a return on them. And if you aren’t sure what your gifts are, pray for guidance, do some online personality tests and some self-exploration. Check out the personality tests below:

https://www.16personalities.com

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/bring-your-bible/personality-test/

“He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents beside them.”

“His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord…Lord (wicked servant speaking), I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown…And I was afraid, and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is thine.”

“His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strawed…And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.” (Matthew 25:14-30).

Don’t hide your talents out of fear. Do you know why the Lord was angry at the servant for hiding his talents? Because God gives us gifts to be used. Our gifts aren’t given to serve ourselves, but they’re given to be used as a form of worship in service. Just as Christ came not to be served but to serve others (Matthew 20:28).

Live Your Best Life for God

I don’t know if you can feel it but I feel we are in the last days. It’s like a feeling in me confirmed by what I see in the world every day. Jesus says in the last days there would be wars and rumors of wars (Matthew 24:6). Just take a look at the news and you can see this is a fact. Right now, commentators are speculating the US and China could go to war in the South Pacific. Daniel 9:27 says the antichrist would establish himself as god in the third temple in Jerusalem. There hasn’t been a temple or sacrificial system in Israel for many years but Israeli leaders have already started planning for the building of the third temple.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I don’t want you to have any regrets. Now more than ever, Christians need to be who God called us to be: ALL of what God called us to be. We are called to be bold as lions (Proverbs 28:1), have strong confidence (Proverbs 14:26), to preach the truth to all who will listen (Matthew 28:16-20), to work hard (Colossians 3:23), and to love God and others (Mark 12:31). We should live hard for God everyday. Compared to our lives on Earth, Eternity is a long time. I personally don’t want to spend that time asking myself what if: What if I had prayed more? What if I had fasted more? What if I had loved more? Because by then, it will be too late.

Four Ways to Have Intimacy With Your Significant Other Without “Getting Intimate”

Let’s be real. As unmarried Christians in relationships, we may want to have intimacy with our boyfriends or girlfriends. Hey, we’re only human! Of course everyone will say, “don’t have sex!” Or “just don’t do it! Wait until marriage.” Or “just keep waiting.” But sometimes you may feel like you can’t wait. Or you may have such strong feelings for your significant other you feel you just can’t wait! You may feel the only way you can have intimacy with your significant other is only through sex. But can you have intimacy without getting it on? Why yes you can!

Intimacy ideas

1. Learn Each Other’s Love Language

Knowing your partner’s love language help you know just how to love on your spouse. Because love isn’t just about saying “I love you.” Like faith, love without action is dead. You’ll have to pair your expressions of love with actions. Some people need love by words of affirmation. Some people need love through acts of service. Others need love by quality time. Others require affection (but be careful with this one, haha). Take the love language test below to determine what your partner’s love language is and work on appeasing to that whenever you can.

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

2. Find Activities to do Together

Work on a new skill or project together: take a language class, or learn to dance! Jason and I would workout together when we were dating. This not only helped us connect, but it was great to see results from something we’ve worked on together. We also read books together, which gave us good things to talk about. Find ways to grow together.

3. Pray or Fast Together

Let me tell you: praying together helped so much in our relationship. Bringing God in is always great but really praying and even studying the Bible together and fasting can help your intimacy get stronger because you’re bonding over your shared love and need for God. And be real when you pray! If you’re feeling tempted to get intimate, tell God! He will always help you.

4. Remember the End Goal and Work to Have a Great Future Marriage

When Jason and I were dating, we made sure to do our homework because we had an end goal in mind: a great marriage. We listened to a lot of marriage podcasts. There are a few wonderful podcasts we would listen to together called “The Godly Dating Podcast” and “Dear Young Married Couple” while we were dating. These podcasts were great! They always provoked deep, thought-provoking conversations. Dear Young Married Couple actually has decks of cards that feature questions you can ask each other while you’re dating and during marriage! We got a deck, and have really enjoyed them! Sometimes you want to know what your spouse thinks about key issues like children or finances but don’t know where to start. So these card decks really help with starting those conversations. See links below!

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This deck is for those in relationships that are still on the journey of growing in their relationship. Lots of great questions to ask each other.

This deck is for deeper conversations that really stimulate thought-provoking conversations any boyfriend or girlfriend should ask each other before marriage.

In Luke 17:1, Jesus tells his disciples “There will always be temptations to sin.” We have to be prepared for the temptation. Be real, when you’re with a person you sincerely love, and are attracted to-the temptation is bound to come! So, its important to be prepared by finding other ways to have intimacy without getting intimate.