Bible Verses About Relationships-Finding the One

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The Bible provides us with a plethora of knowledge we can use for our daily lives Including our relationships. In this post, I’ll provide you with multiple bible verses to study for every aspect of your relationship from finding the guy/girl to engagement! So, let’s get into bible verses about relationships and finding the one to know and study! 

Finding The One!

The following bible verses about relationships are about the pursuit and dating. Dating should be intentional with the goal of marriage. Use the dating period to learn more about the person: their goals, relationship with God, thoughts on marriage and family, and more! Check out my post on ultimate list of questions to ask before marriage here.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18: 22 

You’re going to notice a pattern here: Notice the verse says He who finds a wife. Not she who finds a husband. Men are designed for pursuit so let him pursue you. The woman is meant to be the good thing for her husband. Consider for yourself, are you that good thing? 

“Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Genesis 2: 22 

Ladies, you don’t have to chase after any guy. The Lord will prepare you for the right guy then bring you to him.  

“Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master…Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the Lord had made his journey successful.” Genesis 24: 12-23 

This relates to my post how I knew my husband was the one. The Lord can absolutely lead you to who your spouse is. Pray like Abraham’s servant-pray specifically. Then walk by faith that the Lord will answer you. But when the Lord brings your spouse, wait and see if this truly is from the Lord.  

Trusting God When Finding the One

It’s so important to trust God when dating because God knows everything about us. He knows what we will do and who we will eventually marry. He has a perfect will for us. Check out these bible verses for trusting God when single and dating.

”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29: 11 

Relating to the above verse, God knows everything about us, including our future. Of purse He will know who we marry. So trust Him with that decision.  

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”  Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ 

“I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.” Song of Solomon 8:4  

Wait for the right time. Do you think you need to stay single for a little bit to grow closer to God, or get to a better place financially? Timing is everything, especially with marriage.  

“Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6: 25, 33 

Pursue God daily. Make sure you are doing His will everyday, and try to live your best life for Him. Grow in your struggle areas. When you stop worrying about finding the one, God will bring Him to you. This is so true for me! When I stopped worrying about finding the one, and focusing all my attention on growing closer to God, I met my husband!  

Are They the One?

When dating someone, use these bible verses to determine if they are the one based on their character. Are they a Christian? Are they kind and patient? Check out the verses below for help with these questions!

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 

This is very important. You wanna be on the same page with your partner in regard to life goals, children, and your faith. It is better to be with someone with the same faith as you. I know people who are with people who aren’t Christian and it can be a struggle for them. Of course God can save anyone, but allow Him to do that work. Missionary dating can be a struggle-so why do it?  

“You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.” Matthew 7: 16-17 

Is this person a good person? Do they display the fruits of the spirit: love, kindness, meekness, patience? Ask their friends and family what type of person they are-how do they react when angry, when they don’t get their way, or when disappointed or dissatisfied? Every man reveals himself, eventually. 

Conclusion

Study these bible verses about relationships when you are struggling with trusting God while you’re single and looking for the one. God can lead you in everything. He wants to be involved in every aspect of our lives. Trust Him, and obey Him. He won’t let you down 

Blessings,

M/M

Marriage Gym: Is Work Getting in the Way of Intimacy?

We all have to work, right? I mean we gotta work to survive and thrive. Some of us have jobs that we really love, and some of us have jobs (or school) that can be pretty demanding. There is nothing wrong with having a job that you love and are passionate about. But there is always a danger of work getting in the way of intimacy with your partner.

I’ve experienced this with my husband. He loves his job in insurance, but he is in a season where he works 12-13 hour days. His work schedule can be pretty hard because we’re not spending as much time together than we usually do. So we have had to work a little harder to promote intimacy with each other. Here are a few things we’ve done to encourage intamcy and continue to strengthen our marriage.

1. Communicate Your Love

Like the late songbird Whitney Houston sang, “how do I know that he really loves me?” You won’t know unless your told! My husband and I need reassurance that we still love and are attracted to each other. You can do this by leaving little notes for your partner to see: write a love message on a sticky note, or text them a sweet message, or surprise them with a small gift or card. A little goes a long way. Leave no room for speculation or doubt by telling your partner directly you love them.

2. Carve Out Time for Each Other

I know there can be times where it feels like we literally have no time to even breathe or eat, but its important to make time for the ones we love. When there’s a will, there’s a way. Even if its just an hour or two to share a cup of coffee together in the morning, or a saturday night to watch a movie together, or do something new together. Make the time. There’s an old saying that goes like this: love is spelled: T-I-M-E.

3. Cuddle More

Studies show cuddling is a great way to deepen love between spouses. Cuddling (hugging as well) releases the brain hormone oxytocin. This hormone makes you feel a connection with your spouse and deepens intimacy. Dr. Katherine Harmon studies the power of touch and found that cuddling also is shown to reduce anxiety and stress by increasing brain hormones like oxcytocin and dopamine (which makes you feel good) and lowers cortisol (a stress hormone)which could give you a better sleep. So if youre feeling especially disconnected from your spouse, get your cuddle (or hugging) on! Cuddle your spouse in the evenings and mornings before you start your day.

Intimacy is so important in marriage. When we’re married and just living our lives, its easy to get comfortable with our spouses and feel like we dont have to work too hard to woo our spouse anymore. Dont fall for that trap! Work to continue to woo your spouse and love on your spouse. But, intimacy is important outside of marriage too: if you have a boyfriend or friend or family member you’re not spending as much time with, find time to reach out or spend time with them whenever possible.

Blessings,

M/M

Four Ways to Have Intimacy With Your Significant Other Without “Getting Intimate”

Let’s be real. As unmarried Christians in relationships, we may want to have intimacy with our boyfriends or girlfriends. Hey, we’re only human! Of course everyone will say, “don’t have sex!” Or “just don’t do it! Wait until marriage.” Or “just keep waiting.” But sometimes you may feel like you can’t wait. Or you may have such strong feelings for your significant other you feel you just can’t wait! You may feel the only way you can have intimacy with your significant other is only through sex. But can you have intimacy without getting it on? Why yes you can!

Intimacy ideas

1. Learn Each Other’s Love Language

Knowing your partner’s love language help you know just how to love on your spouse. Because love isn’t just about saying “I love you.” Like faith, love without action is dead. You’ll have to pair your expressions of love with actions. Some people need love by words of affirmation. Some people need love through acts of service. Others need love by quality time. Others require affection (but be careful with this one, haha). Take the love language test below to determine what your partner’s love language is and work on appeasing to that whenever you can.

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

2. Find Activities to do Together

Work on a new skill or project together: take a language class, or learn to dance! Jason and I would workout together when we were dating. This not only helped us connect, but it was great to see results from something we’ve worked on together. We also read books together, which gave us good things to talk about. Find ways to grow together.

3. Pray or Fast Together

Let me tell you: praying together helped so much in our relationship. Bringing God in is always great but really praying and even studying the Bible together and fasting can help your intimacy get stronger because you’re bonding over your shared love and need for God. And be real when you pray! If you’re feeling tempted to get intimate, tell God! He will always help you.

4. Remember the End Goal and Work to Have a Great Future Marriage

When Jason and I were dating, we made sure to do our homework because we had an end goal in mind: a great marriage. We listened to a lot of marriage podcasts. There are a few wonderful podcasts we would listen to together called “The Godly Dating Podcast” and “Dear Young Married Couple” while we were dating. These podcasts were great! They always provoked deep, thought-provoking conversations. Dear Young Married Couple actually has decks of cards that feature questions you can ask each other while you’re dating and during marriage! We got a deck, and have really enjoyed them! Sometimes you want to know what your spouse thinks about key issues like children or finances but don’t know where to start. So these card decks really help with starting those conversations. See links below!

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This deck is for those in relationships that are still on the journey of growing in their relationship. Lots of great questions to ask each other.

This deck is for deeper conversations that really stimulate thought-provoking conversations any boyfriend or girlfriend should ask each other before marriage.

In Luke 17:1, Jesus tells his disciples “There will always be temptations to sin.” We have to be prepared for the temptation. Be real, when you’re with a person you sincerely love, and are attracted to-the temptation is bound to come! So, its important to be prepared by finding other ways to have intimacy without getting intimate.