Are you looking for love this year? Many people want to find love but don’t know how to find that special someone. Look no further than the five easy points below!
This one is pretty simple but often overlooked! Proverbs 18: 24 says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly.”
If you want to find love, you’ll want to be friendly. Simple enough, right? Often, before people get into a relationship or get married, they will be friends first. Or the couple will have met through mutual friends. This was the case for my spouse and I.
I talk more about this in my Youtube video about Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds who also were friends before getting married. Check that out here!
Research also supports this. A recent study including 1,900 adults found that “for 68% of them, their current or most recent relationship began as a friendship.” Having friends is important for healthy lives. But keep in mind that your current (or even past) friendships could be how you find love. More on being friendly later.
If you want to find love, it’s important to be open to finding love anywhere. If you’re a Christian, you will involve God in your love life. He may lead you to go on a dating app (or get off a dating app).
Proverbs 3:5-6 says to “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
Be open to find love in at work, or on social media, or even on a dating website! You can find love anywhere. If you have completely written off some of these things, maybe give them another shot?
Also, be open about what you are looking for which leads to my next point.
Be honest about who you are and what you want. Ask yourself hard questions. Such as:
What type of person is best for you? Are you allowing people into your life who will challenge you to be better? Are you allowing people into your life who will encourage, love, and support you?
Or are you allowing people who are not the best for you? Have there been red flags you’ve ignored because you don’t want to be alone?
Are you looking for a relationship because you want to fill a void in your life? Do you need to get some healing before your next relationship? Not only that, but be sure of what you need-the type of person you need in your life.
I’ve asked myself some of these questions. These are just some questions to ask yourself before getting into a relationship.
This next point is a little controversial but here me out! You should be the best version of yourself. Here is an important point to remember:
People cannot read minds.
Thus, how you present yourself to others matters. People will judge you based on how you look. I’m not saying you have to look like the blonde, thin models on magazines because we’re not all built that way. I am saying to be the healthiest version of yourself and present yourself in a way that demonstrates your character and beauty.
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Not only that, but watch your body language. most experts agree that 70 to 93 percent of all communication is nonverbal. Going back to my point on being friendly, if you’re trying to find love don’t look unfriendly.
Important body language cues to remember:
Smile, keep your stance open, try to keep your arms unfolded, feet pointed towards the person, and maintain eye contact when communicating with people to show interest and friendliness. Don’t be super desperate but keep this in mind when you’re talking to people in general.
Finally, if you want to find love be spirit-led. I talked about this extensively in my post how I met the one which you can read here.
Like I noted above, Proverbs 3:5-6 says to “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
God wants the best for us. When you allow the One who knows your end from your beginning (Isaiah 46: 10), you will not be disappointed. I am a testament of that.
In a time where the world is more connected than ever, it seems to be difficult to find the one. Maybe because there are so many options available? If you are trying to find love, I’m here to encourage you that it’s never too late. Utilize these points above to help in your search!